I was, am a traveler. He was not. He knew my affairs with places so he accommodated this one of the many selves I have in me: the traveler. It was our first trip outside the Visayas. I handled the flights and scored a deal with a resort owner: a free accommodation in exchange for a few photos of his resort. He handled the island transportation and food.
I was on the passenger seat while my guests were at the back. (Context: A learned I travel a lot, messaged me, asked if I could tour him and his friend to Oslob. I told him, I would go down south [normally skip Oslob, I do not support the inhumane treatment of the butandings], and they could join my trip. They did not have to pay me, but they had to handle the expenses.) Both are doctors from Canada. Both are very tall, thus we taxied because, they could afford it and they needed enough legroom. A is white. J is dark, […]
About what you wrote, it was something I’ve been looking for for the past months. I’ve read tons of similar write-ups but none have captured the shame and belittling that I have felt whenever a snide remark is whirled at me for having dark skin and being with a foreign boyfriend. I’ve thought about writing my frustrations countless times but I wasn’t sure anyone could relate at all. And it was in that moment when an acquaintance uploaded a first photo of her with her american boyfriend captioned “Braving stereotypes” that I felt someone is going through the same […]
Hello, I just read your article about your responses to being dark-skinned etc. My wife was born with dark skin as she is a Filipina Jamaican, born and educated in manila. Forty years ago, she migrated to Australia and worked there till we retired two years ago. Iam an Australian. We live in Manila permanently. We travel constantly throughout Philippines and Asia. Very few places we haven’t been. Can you imagine the comments she/we get? We are both sixty-eight years of age. We’re also invincible. Regards, John and Julie *** Our Skin Diary is a weekly post on and about our skin, and the labels and […]